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July 07

七七事变71周年

Publish完上一篇才发现已经到7.7日了。

勿忘国耻。

车...哗哗的

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锵!这就是我刚拿到不久的二手车了,97 honda civic。秉着跟风的态度,我为她取小名儿为小丽...因为她大名叫做"红色珐啦丽"...

虽然有车是很好玩,每天开着到处转悠,但是小丽和我的不幸组合导致每天烧的不是汽油,而是哗哗的美元(不是说汽油就不贵了...9天假期就已经烧了80块钱...相当于一张地铁月卡)。最近这几天,几乎每天都是几百刀几百刀地出去,疼得我心里直抽。

首先是周一,第一次进曼哈顿,回来的路上我按照新买的GPS Garmin 350的吩咐走了一条车很少的路——炮台隧道。我当时很惊讶,怎么几乎在前后视野的远端才有各一辆车,真爽啊。不过一出隧道我就意识到不妙...蠢得要死的GPS竟然那么多出曼哈顿的道儿不走,挑了一个有收费站的路,而且貌似是去布鲁克林唯一要收费的路。收费站旁边就是警察局,于是这个收费站是警察管理的,以下省略文字若干,结局就是我拿到了2008的第2和第3张传票。估计没有两三百块钱搞不定,其实钱还是次要的,之后的保险、法律上的连锁反应才是恐怖的...

周三的200块钱罚金跟车无关,却是我的罚金STRK的重要组成部分。具体内容以后再说..

周四,停车被拖走,185的拖车费跟115的罚金。冲上300了...

周五,独立日,无事,但是很惊险。雨夜开车十分可怕,根本看不清车和车道,而其他车却还是在飞驰,只能瞪大了双眼盯着路况开。一不小心又冲进了曼哈顿,连忙打电话跟老姜确认Manhattan Bridge跟Brooklyn Bridge是否有收费站。虽然免费,但是即便我是这个桥进去马上就从旁边的桥出来,在寸步难行的车流中折腾了一个多小时。回到布鲁克林,在一个十字路口因为看不到停车线,一下子冲过了大半个车位,而正前方左转的就是一辆NYPD警车,小丽车灯照出警车副驾驶位置上的狠狠瞪着我的白人警察,我差点都不能呼吸了,还好他们看在是国庆节和下大雨的份儿上,犹豫了一下还是开走了。深夜总算平安到家。

周六给小丽换了新轮胎,一不小心又是340刀。

就这样,近千美元就没了,随着美元哗哗流走的还有我的血泪...我拼命忍住不舍得买相机、游戏机、好吃的省下来的钱两下就飞了。还有之前买车买保险办牌照的近5千,下个月还没干活工资就已经先光了-_-

不过那些罚款对于新手都很常见,也许迟早要遇到的,早点遇到早点警醒也不是坏事。至于修车,对二手车来说还是很必要的,安全第一。

对了!认识我家人的读者切忌散布本文消息给我家里知道!

July 05

实习第一月结束·感激

其实结束好几天了,从上周五下午就开始了独立日黄金周九天多长假。

一不小心长假已经过到最后两天了,虽然对大多数人来说,国庆假期刚开始,而我却开始了一点假期快结束前的感慨。总之,写写最近这段日子吧。

在DDC工作本身很让我满足,因为公司氛围很好,工作内容也很有意思,再想到坐在那里每个小时都是美元,就更加卖力了。不过还是有不少地方自己比较担心,首先是自己请假有点多,从CPT到考驾照、买车事务,几乎每周都有请假。只领了一个星期的全额工资,比起少的那几十块钱,心里更担心给公司留下不好印象,which简直是一定的...但也没办法,都是必须去办的事情,而相关部门又都是些美国上班时间最少的主,不得不在weekday工作时间跑去办这些事情。

充实感忙碌感大概就这样吧,其实最重要的心情,是感谢。

硕博士总挂在嘴上的一句话,性格决定命运。其实我每次听到都背心发凉,自己总是遇到各种倒霉事情,其实跟我不踏实不成熟的性格的关系太大了。而实际上,我是十分幸运的,总是能遇到“贵人”相助。

从去年开始,就一直得到林先生和林太太的关照和帮助。从找工作、搬家、买车这样的大事,到各种细微的小事儿。开始上班前的周日在教堂我随口提到我衬衫可能不够,第二天林先生就带来一叠家里多余的新衬衫。我实在难以想象一个人如何能这么无私的给予他人帮助,这些事情占用了他很多时间和精力。不只是对我,对其他中国留学生,林先生也总是主动提供各种各样的帮助,而且考虑的比我们自己都更细心。每次我又感激又不好意思的感谢他的时候,他却总是说没帮上什么忙或者说能帮上忙自己也很feel good。

想起我们之前的房东老太,口口声声说自己这些老华侨,很照顾中国自己人,却对我们刻薄无比。连大黄这样的从来不会发脾气的人都被她惹毛。钱在她眼里就是最重要的,还都看不得我们开心...当我们郁闷的开始搬家的时候,她那嘴脸神气的。等我们找到现在这家特别好的房子,而且还是在她家附近,这之后她突然态度变“和蔼”了,一个劲儿的说我们新房东和新房子的坏话来吓我们,愣是嚼舌头把我们的心情嚼郁闷,然后开心的去度假了,nnd.

还有Zhan师姐,每天接送我上班下班,周末带我来回长岛和布鲁克林。这样已经持续一个月了...好在现在有车了,下个月开始Car Pool。

其他的事情具体在独立的篇幅里面写吧。

June 08

上班第一周

——在周二下午就已经结束了...囧

情况大概是:

周一:

大早起来开始梳妆打扮...西装革履的出门,终于第一次见到Zhan Beilei师姐,之后半个多月就要拜托她接送我上班和来去Brooklyn-长岛了。感激不尽Orz

到了公司,第一天忙忙碌碌的弄入职手续、培训和Set up之类的,但是公司对我的材料并没有准备好,而且我刚开始被安排在Lab的一个角落,后来我的boss看我坐那里挺可怜,想起来还有一个cubic可以安排我,又把我挪到那边,于是关于电脑的事情又要重新来一次。一直到这一天结束我都没有还没有正式开始工作...然后就坐上师姐的车回家了。

回家后炖了一大锅排骨萝卜汤,真好喝,接下来几天就靠它了,以后要多炖汤!

周二:

总算把入职的基本事项搞定,初步开始了工作。总算联系上了Michael Greenstein教授,跟这位神龙见首不见尾的教授预约了第二天周三下午见面办理CPT,于是刚开始工作就请假一天...

周三:

还是拜托师姐早上接我,送到火车站然后赶回Brooklyn办各种晕菜事儿。在学校总算把CPT流程走到最后一步,结果被告知要等5天才能拿到我的CPT,可是...明明师姐说最后一步也就两三分钟的事儿,为啥要拖这么久?!

而公司的HR大姐更是落井下石地打电话告诉我,如果我没有办好的CPT,他们不能让我在那里上班...最fz的是,确认这个消息是在我上了回长岛的火车之后。。。两周前这位大姐可是说先来吧没事儿,之后办好了就成。现在来这么一下,让我之后两天呆在那个小牢房里面么难道?

于是我这周的上班是正式结束鸟,只能盼望着学校能在周五帮我把CPT弄好,我就可以周末回Brooklyn拿到然后下周一带过去上班了。

周四:

学校那边哪会这么积极啊,这天电话问来问去的也只是说有可能周五弄好,希望不大,我很纳闷,为什么几分钟的事情这么难呢?

这天睡了个懒觉,然后下午跟着室友少蓬去SUNY-SB转了转,还去了一下健身房,让我想起了我跟大黄数月前持续了一个多月的健身计划...自从买了蛋白粉我们结果逐渐停了锻炼...

周五:

决定主动出击,大早又麻烦师姐送我到车站,赶回Brooklyn,在学校OISS办公室门口待着,不给我办我就不走了..反正我现在也哪儿去不了。好吧,没有这么夸张和赖皮,我只是跟管事儿的头解释了一下自己的情况,来去很不方便,希望能当天拿到CPT,等到下午都行。Michael说,我们要一周时间来处理,你要耐心。话虽这么说,不过他还是让Sherly和GA开始处理我的CPT了。

让我吃惊的是,真跟传说中的一样,5分钟后我拿到CPT...早这样不就行了么,倒。

 

短短五天内我最大的三点感受:

1.早睡早起真不好玩:(

每天早起洗澡着装,然后晚上回家随便做个饭上个网就又该睡觉了...觉得生命被加速消耗ing...这样的日子至少还有3个月...不远的将来还有N年...

2.印度人退散!!

我知道不该这麽说...我也没有对印度同学的歧视什么的,希望没有懂中文的印度朋友恰好看到囧。Anyway, 在学校四处可见的印度兄弟身上的味道实在让我有点那啥,而搬来长岛第一天晚上去的印度超市里面的味道更是像一个下马威一般让我心有余悸,再想到自己要到一个公司的软件开发部门,那印度人必然满眼都是啊。

没想到的是,400人的公司也不算小了,里面几乎没有看到一个印度人,黑人都很少,主要都是白人,还有亚裔。我们软件开发部也是这样,大概四分之一是中国人,然后其他都是白人,真是让人神清气爽!再次声明...没有任何种族歧视的意思...何况我们才是经常被歧视的对象,sigh。

3.PUSH PUSH and PUSH MORE!!

在美国办事,一定要为自己的权益PUSH相关部门和人才行。这话不是我说的,是一个来美国很多年的朋友的话,我也是最近才真正体会到。因为感觉每个人都很忙,你不PUSH对方的话,对方就有可能把你的事情放在一边就那么放着,不知道等到什么时候高兴了才帮你弄。这次实习的paperwork就是这样,从公司HR部门到学校的相关办公室,全部都给你拖,你不催人家就不给你办。而且像我入职第一天,很多事情都应该HR部门提早准备好的,也是临到用时被催着弄的。

当然,也许这只是因为我现在只是一个外国学生或者实习生的关系,希望往后事情会变简单一些。不过,如果你的事情你自己都不积极的话,人家肯定更加放羊了,所以这个思想还是有用的吧。

June 06

在长岛 06-01-2008

上周五在Brooklyn的家里最后一夜,然后第二天上午就搬家来到长岛了,终于离开了房东老妖婆,开心。新家所在town是Selden,公司在Bohemia,开车大概20分钟吧。不过暂时没有驾照,车保险会很贵,等16号路考以后再买车。

没有车在长岛是不能生活的,这点从刚搬去的那个下午就感觉到了,整理完东西我发现自己简直是被囚禁在这个小房间里面了,哪儿都去不了...如果你认为这很糟的话,那么还有更可怕的在后面。我到处都找不到笔记本电脑的电源适配器...这产生的直接后果就是,这天晚上9点半我躺到了床上...

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好在和几个朋友打电话消磨了时间,不过还是很早就入睡了...珍爱睡眠,远离电脑...

不过这将意味着我接下来的几天都没有电脑用,加上没有车,那就是户外室内活动都没有了...总不能整天打电话和睡觉吧。好在善良富有的Lily夫妇伸出援助之手...他们愿意帮我晚上到我家帮我拿适配器然后转交给第二天去教堂的同学再给我。不过问题是,家里没有人啊,sublet给的女生回长岛拿东西要第二天才回去,也就是说。。。要按房东老妖婆门铃让她放人进去了,这妖孽必然怒不可遏。不过只有一样东西能让她忘记其他纷扰,那就是绿花花的美钞。正值月末,于是Lily打着为我交房租的名义过去按门铃,可怜Lily BF戴同学这天刚下飞机到JFK第一件事就是帮我取现金付房租...就这样。。。第二天将从许云那里拿到了我的适配器和顺便捎来的棒球手套。

第二天是周日,因为前一天睡得很早,所以大早就精神矍铄的起来了,洗完澡发现还是7点不到,开车来接我去教堂的Paul Jensen要九点半才能到我家门口,又陷入无事可做,于是诞生了下面某装13系列照片...,这里贴出来跟硕博士比比谁的头发长!

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...没错,就在我在长岛无聊透顶的时候...这些家伙在北京high得不行...(呼,从那么一堆他们的照片里面就找到这么一张正常点的...真是颇有些想念这些家伙。硕博士...在米国大乡村被带坏鸟,咳咳,等他过阵子来纽约见到真人再说;彭没啥变化,不过话说当初跟我们熬夜麻将的时候可没有这么精神;祝同学是不是长高了...;旺旺有点没精神;李杨乐真PP~)嗯,后面三张比较像草莓百分百里面的色情男...这个周六会回去NYC理发,短期内不能装13鸟。

装完13一般都很累的...一不小心又睡着到9点多,飞奔下楼,还好Paul的车刚刚到门口还没停稳。去教堂的路上跟Paul有的没的聊了聊长岛的生活和美国的风俗习惯,中途还在Deer Park接到他的乌克兰养女。

这周日的Service,NBC请来了另一个教会的某著名Pastor做了一次同步手语的关于计划人生的演说,他真是很了不起,先讲述了自己怎么走上为聋哑人服务和发展所在教会聋哑人传教的经历,然后之后就是一边说一边打手语,其口才和手才都让我十分佩服。

另外在worship the God的时候我第二次听到了一首十分好听的歌,叫做Hosanna,光从音乐的角度这就已经是一首很赞的歌了。回家后我特意在网上找到原唱,听了之后让我十分惊叹教会大妈的歌喉,好吧,不是什么大妈,30来岁一个挺pp的大姐,歌声太赞了,比原唱唱的都好听。Anyway,推荐这首Hillsong United的Hosanna:    

从教堂回来后我也要开始我的棒球传教鸟,对象就是我刚认识的新室友绍鹏。这个可爱的大三小男生带我跑来Stony Brook打球,他对棒球并不感冒,先自己和朋友打篮球,我一个人在这个陌生的学校寻找到棒球场,三个球场竟然两个是空的,这在City里面的Park简直难以想象。总算在远处第三个球场里面找到有两个亚洲面孔的家伙在传球,遂加入一起玩。这两个家伙不断惊叹我的传球XD,只是之后就越传越离谱了,不过总算在这没什么棒球气氛的学校认识了两个打球的朋友,约好之后周末再一起玩。

第二天周一就要开始第一天上班了!God Bless!


May 19

轮子 = 牲口 + 傻逼

今天在法拉盛有轮子的集会,他们竟然对国内的灾情开Party般的幸灾乐祸!!我和朋友是六点多从长岛回到法拉盛的,要早3个多小时的话,我一定扔几个棒球过去砸残它们。

我之前一直只是觉得轮子都脑残,自残,偶尔看到他们的那些报纸和媒体就觉可笑至极,认为这等弱智小丑何足挂齿,没必要理会。没想到如今这时候,他们还跳出来做这种事情。这些没良心的轮子都他妈死去吧,不想当中国人就让你滚出中国,现在连人都不想当了,一群牲口。我现在倒是真希望他们说的中共虐待他们的事情是真的,不虐待不足平民愤。

以下文字图片转载自mitbbs.com:

发信人: hestia (little black dress), 信区: NewYork
标  题: 法拉盛买菜群众大战法轮功
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sat May 17 21:05:59 2008)

下午去洗衣房,路过Queens Library,看见法轮功组织了集会谴责中共隐瞒灾情救灾不
力,满嘴胡言...对面过路的群众纷纷停下来与它们理论,十几分钟之内,Queens
Library聚集了一大群买菜的群众。大家一起对着他们喊,让他们滚出去,不要在这里
胡言乱语。很多大妈都特别气愤,说都什么时候了还在这里兴风作浪,简直是激起民愤
。后来不知道是谁拿了好多面小国旗分发给路人,大家就一面摇着国旗对他们喊,还拉
起了几面大国旗。有的好心路人买了几箱矿泉水发给大家,真是非常的感动。NYPD开始
不允许,因为对面的人渣是申请了permit的,我们这边不能打旗帜标语,后来也就睁一
只眼闭一只眼了,还有个警察大叔冲我们这边竖大拇指。对面的人渣有扩音器,非常厉
害,我们这边就大家一齐喊中国加油,唱国歌,歌唱祖国,愣是把他们盖过去了。他们
打出“天灭中共”的标志,我们就喊“天灭法轮功”。我觉得他们估计是没有预料到这
个形势,3点半不到就灰溜溜的撤退回去领赏了。

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发信人: beautlife (美丽人生), 信区: NewYork
标  题: 法轮功在纽约法拉盛造谣生事犯众怒
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sat May 17 21:06:00 2008)

早上大概11点多接到朋友电话,说法轮功在法拉盛图书馆门前的广场集会,指责共产党
导致地震的发生,贪官私吞捐款,政府对灾民不闻不问。听到这个消息的时候,我怒火
中烧,马上赶到了现场。只见警察这个时候已经封路,用栏杆把法轮功的人隔开了,不
许民众接近,轮子们跟开party一样,挂满了彩色的气球,横幅标语上写着各种中伤中
国的污言秽语,还打出了“天灭共产党”的大旗。我气得直往前冲,骂他们个天杀的,
被一个女警阻止了。旁边有好心人往街对面指了一下,说抗议大部队在那边。我赶紧冲
过街去,加入了路人自发组织的反法轮功队伍。

法拉盛本来就是华人聚居的地方,所有人都非常愤怒轮子们居然敢在如此非常时期冒天
下之大不韪挑拨离间幸灾乐祸造谣生事。大家振臂高呼"天灭法轮功!”“法轮功,滚
出去!”“法轮功,败类!卖国贼!”两方对峙,路人纷纷驻足,加入我们这边的队伍
,连超市里的搬运工都停下手中的活,跟我们一起高喊中国加油!轮子那边的发言人一
个接着一个的挑衅我们,要不是警察丛中阻拦,估计怒气冲天的人群早就把轮子的摊子
砸得个稀巴烂!一阵风吹过,轮子的大旗倒了下来,人群中一阵欢呼。我们这边突然有
人高举起了国旗,十分振奋人心,众人齐唱起国歌,歌声响彻云霄。所有人都在议论纷
纷,指责轮子这帮人渣在这个时候做这样的事情是会遭到天谴的。抗议持续了2个多小
时,轮子见不得人心,草草收场,灰溜溜的跑掉了。有一位警察听到我们在喊I love
China more than ever,他说I do too.

散会以后,加入了和统会和华人社团联席会的赈灾募捐活动,捐款的人很多,截至六点
为止募捐到2万美元。明天12点开始他们会在法拉盛会继续这个募捐活动,2点钟在
flushing mall会有义演活动,晚上有烛光悼念活动。所有募捐到的款项将会交给中领
馆,希望在纽约的朋友都来支持。

我们中国人是不会被任何灾难打垮的,无论那些妖魔鬼怪是如何想要分裂我们,我们只
会团结得更加紧密。天灾是一面照妖镜,照出人的良心!

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LOVE our CHINA, LOVE our PEOPLE!

默哀

还有4分钟到北京时间14:28,到点发文,然后为祖国和人民默哀,为受灾的地区、人们祷告。

还有3分钟...

还有2分钟...同时也为中国祷告,请主保佑她。

还有一分钟。

Publish,开始默哀.

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April 27

97周年校庆

祝愿母校越来越好,早日成为名副其实的世界一流大学!

自强不息,厚德载物

也希望我能早日真正履行校训...

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说说纽约这边的校庆活动:

大纽约区的THUers在这个周末连续在NJ和NYC举行聚会庆祝母校校庆。于是中午和Lily赶到Midtown Manhattan的成都印象饭店参加活动。

去了之后发现我们是最小的。。。显然,毕业了在美国的THUers就数3字班最新了,于是积极的帮忙打杂。其实是光彩照人的Lily同学被组织者搭讪了,而我本来坐着的地方旁边是一位冷冷的大妈...遂也跟着帮忙去了。

话说人真是多啊,组织者本来预计只有三十来个人,结果来了估计六七十,最高资格的貌似竟然有1933年入学的老前辈,最年轻的...说了,就是我们了。在帮忙的时候,认识了一位计算机系95级的前辈,他以前是奔腾队(计算机系棒球队)的球员,一看到棒球老前辈实在是激动兴奋幸福,相约之后去中央公园打棒球,期待得口水哗啦的。。。

忙活了半个多小时,把宾客都迎好了,这才发现我用书包和衣服占的俩位子被挪开了...没办法人太多坐不下嘛。也不是坐不下,正中间的一桌刚好有两个位子,但是我们踌躇着,因为那一桌都是白发苍苍的老前辈,实在有点不好意思。这时候一位老奶奶向我们招呼让我们过去坐...不敢不从,于是两个最小资格的家伙坐到了元老席...

元老们都很相敬如冰,我们更加是对他们"举盘齐眉"般的尊敬。显然的嘛,要知道清华的名声和实力就是这些老前辈们拼打出来的,我们是其受益者。只是...跟元老们实在没有什么好聊的,吃东西也放不开...如坐针毡半小时后,又来了被一只大妈搀扶的一位老奶奶。我们赶紧让座趁机逃到棒球前辈那一桌,这里果然热闹多了,虽然都比我们大5岁以上的...但是聊得很开心,认识了不少好玩的人,PS Lily 又被搭讪若干...

最后,希望有生之年能“为祖国健康工作五十年!”...那样的话,我至少得活到八九十岁还能干活...

April 17

[转载] 小男孩和苹果树

好久好久以前,有个很可爱的小男孩和一株很善良的苹果树。小男孩每天都去找苹果树玩,在树干上荡秋千、告诉苹果树所有他的事情,他们互相彼此关心着……时间一天一天的过去,小男孩长大了。

一天,小男孩来到苹果树前,苹果树高兴的飘动着树叶说:“来吧,来吧,我的孩子,爬上我的树枝和我玩吧。”小男孩摇摇头说:“我长大了,不想和你玩了,我想要玩具!”苹果树说:“对不起,我没有钱,你摘下我的果实去集市卖吧,这样你就有钱买玩具了。”小男孩听了很高兴,摘下树上所有的苹果,很久都没有再回来,但是苹果树觉得很幸福很幸福。

日子一天天过去,小男孩长大了,长成了壮年。一天,他又出现在苹果树面前,苹果树高兴的舞动着树叶说:“来吧,来吧,我的孩子,爬上我的树干和我玩吧。” 而小男孩却悲伤的说:“哎……我恋爱了,我想结婚,但是我没有房子……”苹果树说:“对不起,我没有房子给你,你砍下我的树枝去做房子吧,这样就可以过上幸福的日子了。”壮年听了很高兴,砍下树上所有的树枝,满意的走了……苹果树只剩下秃秃的树干,但是她心里仍然觉得很幸福很幸福。

又不知过了多久,壮年又出现了,苹果树高兴的弯下树干说:“来吧,来吧,靠在我的身体上和我说说话吧。”而壮年却沮丧的说:“我不想一辈子都在这里,我想去旅行,去见识外面的世界……”苹果树说:“对不起,我不能和你一起去旅行,你砍下我的树干去做艘小船吧,这样就可以去你想去的任何地方了。”壮年听了很高兴,用力的砍下树干,开始了他的旅途……苹果树只剩下了最后的树桩,她看着壮年远去的背影很难过很伤心,但是她心里还是幸福的。

日子一年一年的过去,苹果树桩上裂开了口子、长满了青苔,她的心没有一天不在思念她的小男孩。终于,在某个不知名的日子里,她的小男孩回来了,这时他已是一个头发花白的老人。苹果树高兴极了,含着泪微笑的说:“来吧,来吧,我的孩子,我已经没有什么可以给你的了。如果你累了,就坐在我的树状上歇歇脚吧。” 老人坐下来,从此再也没有离开……

你也许觉得故事里的小男孩对苹果树很残忍。然而,现实生活中,很多人都是这样对待自己的父母的。

心里多惦记些父母吧,常回家看看,他们永远是这个世界上最无私的爱着你的人!

哭笑不得...

王¥1000事件中现在主要卷入的有三方:她本人,爱国fq,西方媒体...

下面我转贴的两个来自博客BIBIT NATUALE D'ITALIA的post请耐心看完...之后大家就知道在这个事件中折腾的除她本人之外的两边有多么傻了...苦笑不得,无论是跟她急的广大fq还是西方媒体都太没面子了-_-同时也验证了我说的"根本不用care that much"是对的...

1. I really just have to write this

发布于04-16-2008

link: http://happinessguaranteed.blogspot.com/2008/04/i-really-just-have-to-write-this.html

Wow. Just wow. While I have physics and a paper to write, I really need to get this out.
Grace Wang. She's really something.

She's quite useful to the media. Both sides are having a field day. The chinese TV are branding her as this terrible traitor while western media is holding her up as the lone voice of reason. They both are neglecting the truth, what Grace really is, beyond the 9 minute Youtube video and glorious interviews.

When I first met her at a dinner, she immediately spilled her life story. I thought, maybe she was being a slightly socially incompetent fob and trying to make friends. I listened. What a good story it was.

She told of how she was involved in a political group with some top lawyers in China. They were trying to get the truth out of the Tiananmen square incident. They wrote articles and blogs together on the subject. Then one day, one of her friends involved in the group disappeared. They called her, went to her house, tried everything, but she was no where to be found. Then Grace and her parents start freaking out. Grace's dad, at the time the ex mayor of Qingdao, afraid of Grace facing a similar fate, went to her files in the city government and threw them out. She got a new name, and quickly moved to South Korea. At the time, Grace told us that she already dropped out of her high school in Qingdao because she was unsatisfied by the best high school in Shandong province. She moved to Korea, and there she learned English by watching American films. While she was there, she also slept around with a lot of guys. Then she applied to Harvard and got rejected. The next year, she applies again, to Harvard, Princeton, Yale, and Duke. She gets accepted to all but Harvard. She chose to come to Duke because she got the Robertson. She then turns down the Robertson because she didn't want the restrictions set by the program.

After the story finished, we were all pretty amazed. We were all thinking that this seemingly innocent Chinese student is destined for greatness. After we come back to my room, she proceeds to tell one of us about the guy in the dorm she had sex with. I was quite shocked by this. She seemed so innocent, and we had only been at Duke for less than 5 days. She says the guy was a virgin and now he wants a relationship. We go to the common room, she points him out, and he was playing pool at the other side of the room, totally not paying attention to her.
Later on, Grace begins telling us many stories about herself. All she ever talks about is herself.
As the stories piled on, they became inconsistent, and sometimes directly contradicting. People begin question her trustworthiness. Eventually, after months of lies and irrationality, people begin disliking her. For such a trusting and kind dorm like Brown to dislike someone, you really have to be special. And Grace is that special. Now we know she is a liar. She didn't go to Korea or even participate in anything political. She even told people that she wrote her own recommendations for college applications. She made up stories to make herself seem impressive for colleges, and now, the western media.

She's overloading by taking around 6 courses. 2-3 of those are foreign language courses. She was angry that the academic dean wouldn't let her do more. Funny thing is, she's definitely not doing well in any of them. I've heard her practice her German, and it is atrocious.
She also reads like a maniac. I don't really know what she reads, but it's Chinese literature/philosophy and political theory. She prints hundreds of pages a night to read, parades around with her stack of papers, telling anyone who would listen, trying to impress another person of her political acumen.
She shaved off her eyebrows the other day. Because 1: all her boy problems will go away, and 2: pretty girls never make history.
She also makes up stories about how people ask to have sex with her or perform sexual acts with her.
Is it me, or is she someone trying to convince herself that she's destined for greatness?

It would really take a really long time to really describe all my Grace stories and I don't have time for it. But all I can say is, she has been lifted up by western media as a martyr in this battle for Tibet. And she's drinking in every moment of it, because finally, she is being seen as a hero.
What a silly, irrational girl.

Oh how could I forget to mention, she wants to be president of China.

2.Dorm Drama

发布于03-03-2008

link: http://happinessguaranteed.blogspot.com/2008/03/social-lackings.html

There's a certain Grace Wang in Brown. just wow. I shall copy and paste an interesting email conversation.

Dear Brownies,

I'm Grace Wang (王千源) from second floor. I think I've at least talked to everyone here. If not, I'll pay a kind visit to you as soon as possible. I've experienced some serious issues in our dorm recently that almost made me move out. Actually I've already submitted my reaccommodating application and decided to leave by next Friday. But after days of serious consideration, I decided to stay because I believe the best way to solve the problem is not to quit but to confront it. I'm writing this email to you because I think this is an issue considering every one of us.

The problems are distrust and gossip. Of course, not all Brownies gossip. But a lot do. Brown is a very close community, which facilitates communication of all kinds and, of course, a curiosity of our neighbors' interesting lives. Not only do many of us nose into others' privacy, but also do we share our amazing discoveries. I've heard some very unkind sayings from young gentlemen gossiping about their roommates, or ladies meanly mentioning their neighbors, even from people I trusted and respected so much. Many, if not all, of the stories were simply fabrication but like snowballs they grew bigger and bigger. None of us is perfect but that is not an excuse for us to hurt others. Treat others as how we want to be treated and insulting others is humiliating ourselves. I became a target probably because I acted up against it. Recently I was openly insulted by more than ten people who barely talked to me anywhere but Marketplace about several different issues in public. When I responded to those rummors, I was laughed at by many other watchers who seemed to be so nice otherwise. I was forced to answer questions that should not be asked by any rational being in public. (When he asked me these questions the gentlemen was wearing a contented smile.) I was chased by a gentleman who had insulted me many times and he even cornered me to forgive him without trying to appologize after all he did. Suddenly, after all these happened, everyone went back to their small niche and became a saint again. From their smile I saw insecurity; from their pretension I saw hollowness; in their eyes I saw fear. Majority is no guarantee to be correct. Up till now I haven't received any apology from any single person. All I got is denial and denial and denial. Dumb as I am, I still got the message. All they meant is just "it was not my fault," "it was only a joke," and "I didn't say anything." This is how responsible and brave they are. I was so frustrated. I almost packed up everything and then I unpacked again. I unpacked and decided to stay because I know I'm not alone. If they can gossip about me then they can gossip about everyone. Or maybe they even gossip about each other. Only by blaming others would they find their own security and peace.

I have already forgiven everyone and forgotten every insulting word. But my principles are inviolable. I don't mind if some people would continue gossiping about me after I wrote this letter. What I want to tell them is that I will defend everybody's privacy to be protected and reputation to be preserved. I will fight for this public disease to death. If anyone want to talk with me about this, my room is 226.

My last words here are that we should cherish the opportunity to have everyone here. Instead of hurting each other or saying a superficial hi, there're much more meaningful things to do with each other. Together, we should protect each other, help each other, and love each other.

Peace,

Grace

A response sent to her in private, but she decided to send the response to everyone in the dorm, including the original message.

Hi Grace,

I don't really know how I am considered by you, but I feel that you are a great person and have lots of potential. You should know that Brownies are not malicious beings who gossip to hurt you. You should try to see that they are trying to help you.

The distrust is there because you tell us many different versions of your life. You are the propagator of all these rumors. Like this email, your stories get told by mostly you. You do realize that mountains of rumors will now spread because you have brought yourself to the attention of others and now you will be discussed? You might feel that people are insulting you by their disbelief, but I think you are the one insulting yourself with your false stories. You first told me that you are from Qingdao and that you are here due to political persecution. I have heard different versions where you organized an international conference and it flopped, thus you are here. People are not dumb, we piece together your inaccurate stories. I will not guess at the reason why you make up many different versions of your life, but perhaps you are doing this to impress us? Please do not feel a need to impress everyone you meet, spill your lifestory to everyone you meet. There is distrust because you created it. Not only do you make up lies about yourself, you openly tell stories about others. Perhaps they are true, but because of our previous experiences with you, we do not how to view this. If you did fabricate these events that have taken place, you have hurt them way more than anyone has hurt you because you are actively harming others. But perhaps you did not make anything up and we are just very bad at piecing together your lifestory (we do so because it definitely is interesting, from what you have told us), so we could take all those stories as truth with a grain of salt.

Also to let you know, you are infamous on west and infamous within the Chinese circle at Duke. Had you escaped Brown, you would have been confronted with a world of people who arent so patient with your lies.

Curiosity is only natural, from what I hear, you are also very curious about political science. Curiosity means no harm. If I were you, I would be grateful that no pranks have befallen you.

Like any person with self respect, you have a sense of pride. I respect that, yet it is wise now, and definitely in the future if you wish to persue a successful political career, to be humble. Try to understand others, look at yourself for perhaps the blame lies there.

I do this not to hurt you, but to ease your current social situation on campus.

Please try to be open minded about things.

Grace (王千源)'s Response:

I admire your courage to reply in such a candide way. When I wrote the letter to everyone, I never thought about you so I was surprised by what you said about Chinese community. You have made a very fast judgment on me and also an unfair generalization about Chinese community. As far as I can see, you like to make fun of Chinese people and see yourself superior than Chinese (maybe only those who are more Chinese than you are?) Candidate, I have faith in Chinese community here and everywhere. I also believe that people have the ability to tell right from wrong. Apparently some people have eagerly spread the rumor to as many people as possible. I can tell you that all of the stories you heard from me are true. I am also very happy to see how much interest you showed to my and others' life. If you want to know something about my personal life as you have shown apparent interest, I can tell you very candidly whatever is appropriate to tell. I am from Qingdao, which is a fact that I have never ever hide. I have also organized an important political protest in Beijing. The political science professor Tianjian Shi at Duke and a Chinese student (Class 11 from Beijing) called Ruochen Zhu can attest what I've said. I can also tell you that that protest had something to do with Duke university political science department and I communicated with president Brodhead and got replies from the then political science departement acting chair Michael A Gillespie and Vice Provost for International Affairs Gilbert Merkx.

If I feel a little intimidated, I wouldn't even try to write this email or to stay here. I told the story because my past shows who I am today and I am still bothered by a lot of the experiences. I also want people to be aware of the political status quo in China and feel a need to care. I have been through a lot more than you can ever imagine and it is not easy to handle by myself. You don't need to worry about how do I or others think about you. It is what you think of you and what you do that matters. I have said I have chosen to forget about everything everyone did. I hope this is the end of your game.

Best,

Grace

不用我多说什么了吧。。。一个幻想型精神分裂的家伙(希望她早日得到相应的精神帮助,不是嘲笑,真心地说),让上亿人和无数媒体为之疯狂。。。她倒是达到她的目的获得了她要的快感了。而对于fq们,天,别人该怎么说阿,“看,中国人连一个精神病人说疯话都不放过”么-0-...至于媒体们,本来就很傻却,这下该丢大发了。话说,这个博客的主人还真是好玩,竟然在一个多月前就把王¥1000的真面目揭发出来,哈哈,过阵子如果真能去DUKE玩,希望有幸见识一下XD

还是咱们政府nb。。。根本就没打算理她,一定早就知道她的精神状况了-_-。话说回来,也多亏了这个王¥1000,暴露了咱们很多问题。

关于针对王¥1000的网友攻击我也说了,这里不再重复。单是看我上上篇post中的回复,我在自己这个偏僻的角落发表的文章,都能引来D1同学的人身攻击。我相信从我最近的Post来看,一般人应该都能看出我是很爱国和反藏独的,而我只是说不要对王¥1000和其家人太Harsh之类的言论,得到的reply如下:

D1

4月17日 0:30

R u fucked by america as well?

Fuck u bitch!

She is such a screwed puppy of America this fucking bird!!!Ameria is killing around the world! Her whole family has fucked up mind!

what the hell of human rights she knows about? has she ever been to Tibet? She doesn't know a shit about it!

Just go fucking die! if i was in america right now, i wouldn't mind going to kill this bitch. she dosen't deserve any human right, not even to exist!!!

其实扔出这种言论的人,其素质可想而知,我本懒得care,但是目前就是因为这样的人让大家之前取得的成就大打折扣,我不得不说两句。

对任何跟你稍微不同的声音进行打压、辱骂和赌咒,难道这就是爱国?有点基本的民主素养行不行。。。如果说王¥1000因为说了两句话就是犯叛国罪,那么对于那么多扬言要以各种不堪入目的方式杀了王¥1000及其家人的网友,是不是该赶快被公安机关给抓起来?

本来世界看到的是华人理智和平的抗议,有不少人在想自己是不是一直认为的真相其实是不对的,他们开始关注我们的不同声音,用新的角度来看西藏问题和达赖喇嘛的真实面孔;连CNN都因为大家的努力进行了道歉。但是,就是fq们的行为,让媒体们又抓到了把柄,赶紧采访王¥1000并了解事情发展。他们会说,诺,你们看,中国人就是这样子的,我们之前也没有说错嘛。

以下是纽约时报明天将刊登的文章,同样建议耐心看完,这次人家并没有怎么bias。

Chinese Student in U.S. Is Caught in Confrontation

link: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/04/17/us/17student.html?ref=world

DURHAM, N.C. — On the day the Olympic torch was carried through San Francisco last week, Grace Wang, a Chinese freshman at Duke University, came out of her dining hall to find a handful of students gathered for a pro-Tibet vigil facing off with a much larger pro-China counterdemonstration.

image Ms. Wang, who had friends on both sides, tried to get the two groups to talk, participants said. She began traversing what she called “the middle ground,” asking the groups’ leaders to meet and making bargains. She said she agreed to write “Free Tibet, Save Tibet” on one student’s back only if he would speak with pro-Chinese demonstrators. She pleaded and lectured. In one photo, she is walking toward a phalanx of Chinese flags and banners, her arms overhead in a “timeout” T.

But the would-be referee went unheeded. With Chinese anger stoked by disruption of the Olympic torch relays and criticism of government policy toward Tibet, what was once a favorite campus cause — the Dalai Lama’s people — had become a dangerous flash point, as Ms. Wang was soon to find out.

The next day, a photo appeared on an Internet forum for Chinese students with a photo of Ms. Wang and the words “traitor to your country” emblazoned in Chinese across her forehead. Ms. Wang’s Chinese name, identification number and contact information were posted, along with directions to her parents’ apartment in Qingdao, a Chinese port city.

Salted with ugly rumors and manipulated photographs, the story of the young woman who was said to have taken sides with Tibet spread through China’s most popular Web sites, at each stop generating hundreds or thousands of raging, derogatory posts, some even suggesting that Ms. Wang — a slight, rosy 20-year-old — be burned in oil. Someone posted a photo of what was purported to be a bucket of feces emptied on the doorstep of her parents, who had gone into hiding.

“If you return to China, your dead corpse will be chopped into 10,000 pieces,” one person wrote in an e-mail message to Ms. Wang. “Call the human flesh search engines!” another threatened, using an Internet phrase that implies physical, as opposed to virtual, action.

In an interview Wednesday, Ms. Wang said she had been needlessly vilified.

“If traitors are people who want to harm China, then I’m not part of it,” she said. “Those people who attack me so severely were the ones who hurt China’s image even more.”

She added: “They don’t know what do they mean by ‘loving China.’ It’s not depriving others of their right to speak; it’s not asking me or other people to shut up.”

In a flattering profile in 2006, Ms. Wang was described in a Qingdao newspaper as believing she was “born for politics.” She writes poetry in classical Chinese, plays a traditional string instrument called the guzheng, and participated in democracy discussion boards back home, she said.

Ms. Wang said she was not in favor of Tibetan independence, but she said problems could be reduced if the two sides understood each other better.

Since riots in Tibet broke out last month, campuses including Cornell, the University of Washington and the University of California, Irvine, have seen a wave of counterdemonstrations.

When Ms. Wang encountered the two demonstrations last week, the Chinese students seemed to expect her to join them, she said. But she hesitated.

“They were really shocked to see that I was deciding, because the Chinese side thought I shouldn’t even decide at all,” she said. “In the end I decided not to be on either side, because they were too extreme.”

Daniel R. Cordero, a member of the Duke Human Rights Coalition and an organizer of the pro-Tibet vigil, said he was handing out literature when Ms. Wang came up and pointed to the counterprotesters.

“She was like, ‘Why are you focusing on the Duke students? Let’s have a dialogue with these people,’ ” he said. “And I’m thinking, oh come on, seriously, that’s not going to help anything.”

Some of Ms. Wang’s efforts to mediate were met by insults and obscenities from the Chinese students.

“She stood her ground; she’s a really brave girl,” said Adam Weiss, the student on whose back Ms. Wang wrote “Free Tibet.” “You have 200 of your own fellow nationalists yelling at you and calling you a traitor and even threatening to kill you.”

At Ms. Wang’s behest, he ultimately spoke to some of the Chinese contingent, finding, he said, that “we could compromise and say we all wanted increased human rights for all Chinese, and especially for Tibetans.”

Sherry, a Chinese graduate student who declined to give her last name for fear of being harassed, had a less heroic view.

“She claimed she wanted to make communications between both sides, but actually she did nothing before that night. She didn’t communicate with any organizers and actually was just performing,” Sherry said. But she called the backlash against Ms. Wang “horrible.”

“There are a few students that are very angry at her,” she said, “but there are many others who try to protect her,